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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Although, Allah (swt) say in Surah An-Nisa' 4:35,

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَٱبْعَثُوا۟ حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِۦ وَحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَآ إِن يُرِيدَآ إِصْلَٰحًا يُوَفِّقِ ٱللَّهُ بَيْنَهُمَآۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا

"And if you fear dissension between the two, send an arbitrator from his people and an arbitrator from her people. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Acquainted [with all things]". 📚An-Nisa' 4:35

But,

Is it advicable for couples to allow third parties to mediate in their marital problems?.

Who's a third party?

According to experts, a third party is a person or group besides the couple, involved in a situation, especially a dispute. He or she can be either of the couples’ family members, friends, co-workers or neighbours. In most cases, they pose as good people who want to better your marriage but at the end of it they will destroy your marriage. We should not give room to them. Yes. Even your parents could sometimes out of good wisdom add salt to your injury.

My People!

It is no longer news that there is no challenge-free relationship and so issues will always come up in every relationship, it will be building castle in the air to expect a challenge-free marriage.

The point here is that couples who take delight in reporting themselves to such third party risk having more complications about their relationship. As a matter of fact, the marriage, in most cases, becomes an endangered species at the end of the day. So, reporting yourselves to any third party should be avoided like a plague. It is not something you derive joy from, as if it is a good thing to do. After all, no third party was there at the inception of the marriage, even if you got introduced to each other by the third party. The decision to become husband and wife must have been purely that of both of you. So, why not embrace or practice "Patience" in every aspect of your marital life since marriage is an act worship greatly rewarding?

My People!

No one knows you like your spouse, and if that is the case, you are in the best position to know what to do to resolve your differences. Due to fear of shame, couples don’t tell all the stories behind the quarrels, and the third party will be treating cancer with malaria drugs😃. It will definitely not work. Not only that, after third party interference, both of you will still go back home to talk things over for the issues to be completely resolved. So, why going to the third party in the first instance?

To be continued..

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