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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 208*
*DEAR SISTERS,*
Are you saying yes to him because he is an option or just because he is option you want or you see your friends getting engaged, married, moving into her first home, posting pics with her man? The effect ahead is waiting in the marriage.
Never think your life will be like the one you read on novels or watches on movies, remember your life is involved. Some may work out later and some may not.
Marriage is like a shoe if you wear over seize shoe or to tighten or moderate one be ready to drag it everywhere you go, You see that moderate one doesn't mean they are not fighting sometimes it will be like what did I even see on you that make me marry you when there is a lot of beautiful girls, handsome man on town with well manner, Every marriage have there flaws, know matter how many years or months you have dated you cannot know everything about him/her the most important one you are going to know it after marriage .
One's you marry him, no matter what he be doing to you expect beating be good to him, cook his food make sure he eat before going to work in the morning and make sure he didn't sleep with empty stomach because they say (true man's heart is true his stomach), wash his cloths iron it, tiding up the house, make the house neat most especially always look attractive, ask him about his days and work, make a suggestion to his business by doing this & that, keep doing these all the time if he shout at you don't shout at him back let him pour his heart out find a place to seat cool down breathing in and out then drink a water and say I don't deserve to be sad I deserve to be happy and Never get tired of him let him thinking you are his housemaid but deep down you doing your work as a good wife, with often time the likeness will start develop naturally before you know it he is already in love with you, real love start after nikkah (marriage) am sure if he has a human heart, practicing deen, God fearing one, it will work out but if doesn't, it getting worse, he maltreat you, raise his hand to beat you then he is an animal I suggest to let your parents or mentors or guardian know what you are going through in your matrimonial home If divorce is the only option then go for it, give him a space let him know your value but if doesn't come back for you, you have forget and move on with your life I know it will very difficult but if he come never fail to pray before say yes to him. Divorce doesn't mean your life is over, live your life fully, be kind to your self, he is not worth you, you don't deserve to be sad, you deserve to be happy. I always say one thing (what is meant to be yours is already make its way to you, what is never yours starting to flee from you with times it will all make sense) .
Hope you find it interesting🤗 I don't know much about marriage thing joor am still a young girl😜
May Allah (s. w. t) bless us nikkah(marriage) with out divorce, a spouse without Fitnah (Ameen)🙏🙏🙏. 💃🏼💋😷👄 *_I DON'T LOVE HER?_*
_Umar Ibn Khattab (may almighty Allah be pleased with him) said to a man who was thinking of divorcing his wife: ''Why do you want to divorce her? ''He said, ''I don't love her''. Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, ''Must every house be built on love? What about loyalty and appreciation?''._
*_He continued; 'You men! When we marry, we give a serious promise to her. A woman gives birth to children and goes through hard times during pregnancy. Then she suckles the baby and takes care all nights about her children, when they get sick or need anything. She sacrifices her beauty and youth for being a mother. How fair is if, when her husband leaves her, when she is grown up? If she would have never taken care of her home and family, instead of taking care of her body and beauty, her husband would say: ''What a bad mother she is.'' Where is integrity and loyalty? Fear Allah regarding your behavior towards your wives.'_*
{Al-Bayan wa at-Tabayeen 2/101; Fara'id al-Kalam, p.
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