Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 172* *I DID NOT MARRY YOU TO PLAY WITH YOU

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 172*

*I DID NOT MARRY YOU TO PLAY WITH YOU*

They got married after a beautiful

love story, and after two weeks the

husband woke up to go to work.

He went to the bathroom to wash

his face, and in the mirror he saw

his face full of drawings of different

colours.

His wife was young, childish, and

had an innocent heart. She

scribbled on his face as he was

sleeping, and she did so with a

great love, that they would laugh

about it in the morning.

The husband washed his face while

upset, and went to the kitchen to

drink the coffee which he usually

does every morning. He did not

find the coffee, and he became

more upset, and went to her.

She smiled because she thought he

would laugh at her, and say

something romantic.

But he slapped her until she fell

down, and yelled at her saying: "I

did not marry you to play with you,

I am a man and not a young child. I

married you to start a family to

have children, to be a man in the

eyes of everyone. Do you want to

live a love story of the films and

those novels that you read? Wake

up, these stories does not make a

home, nor provide food, nor raise

children. Today I will invite my

friends for lunch, I want everything

to be ready when I come back. Do

you understand?"

He went out and saw himself as the

master of the house. He left her

broken, crying so hard that she

could not breathe well.

She is sick and when she cries she

almost breaks out.

Then she hurriedly went to prepare

lunch, and tears did not leave her

cheeks.

The husband went and told his

friend what had happened while

laughing:

"They think that marriage is all love

and romance. This is how women

should be treated, my friend,

otherwise she will never learn

responsibility. She will not be a

good mother. She must know that

marriage is not as she sees or reads

about it. These are just stories to

gain profits. They need to learn

that marriage is not a game or a

novel."

But fortunately his friend was not

like him, he did not let him to finish

his conversation, he cut him saying:

"What kind of a man are you? Why

are you so harsh on your wife? Is

this how a good husband is

supposed to be? The Messenger of

Allah (May Allah's Blessings and

Peace be upon him) said: (Be gentle

with ladies, they are like glasses.)

You have to deal with them gently

and be soft on them, and do not

break their hearts. Blessings and

Peace of Allah be upon him said:

(This world is temporary joys, and

the best temporary joy of this

world is a righteous wife.)

Beware what you mentioned a

little while ago about cooking and

raising the children. It is not

compulsory for her, but being nice

to her will make her love you more,

and be passion on you, and she will

do all these without you telling her.

You should know that she is not

your maid. Go back to your senses

my friend, and repent to Allah. Go

back to your wife and honour her

and do not make her sad again."

The husband felt sad and regretted

what he did.

He then decided to call her to tell

her that he had cancelled the lunch

invitation of his friends, and to

prepare lunch for them alone.

The phone rang but there was no

answer.

He went back to the house quickly

and rang the bell but no one

answered.

He forgot his keys in the morning,

because he came out while upset.

Suddenly his phone rang, it was his

wife's brother.

His wife called his brother when

she felt she was not well, to take

her to the hospital.

His wife's brother said to him:

"Brother, we are in the hospital."

His voice was full of sadness, which

made the husband's heart almost

to stop from fear, and the idea that

something bad had happened to

his wife.

He stopped the Taxi and went to

the hospital, and found all her

family there.

There was sadness on their faces.

He thought that they would be

angry at him, but it seems they did

not know what had happened.

He greeted them and waited for

the doctor.

After several hours the doctor came

out to them head down and told

them: "With great sadness and

sorrow, May Allah Have Mercy on

her, the weakness of her heart

came to us late."

Everyone cried, especially the

husband. He regretted and blamed

himself.

Her mother washed her and she

was buried the same day.

In the evening the husband

returned home after taking the

keys from the brother of his

deceased wife.

He entered the house and found

the table covered. He removed the

cover and found the best delicious

dishes, and saw a paper hanging on

the door of the refrigerator.

It was written: 'My love, I am sorry

because I wanted you to betray the

customs and traditions of your

community. I am sorry because I

wanted you to get out of this stone

heart of a man, and to hear from

you some romantic words, and hug

me and tell me that you love me.

Forgive me because of my childish

mind I wanted you to treat me like

a child. I hope your friends will like

the food, and I promise that I will

never make you sad or upset again.

I promise you. I love you so much."

He looked at the table and threw

the food everywhere, and sat down

crying, crying and saying: "What

did I do to you my love, I killed you

with my cruelty, forgive me?"

These days, we dishonour a man

who loves and spoils his wife. We

have forgotten that, you are

considered a great man if you have

mercy on your wife, and it is also a

Command of Allah.

Allah Says: {And of His signs is that

He created for you from yourselves

mates that you may find

tranquillity in them; and He placed

between you affection and mercy.

Indeed in that are signs for a

people who give thought.}

Remember your wife is from

yourself, when she is happy, you

will live a happy life.

Know that building a happy home

requires, Patience, Honesty and

Love.

Have a pleasant day

{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}

"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)