THE MUSLIM HOME EPISODE 1️⃣7️⃣ - Forming the Household 1️⃣5️⃣

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*THE MUSLIM HOME*

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*EPISODE 1️⃣7️⃣ - Forming the Household 1️⃣5️⃣*

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*1️⃣7️⃣ Being strict in adhering to a schedule for meals and bedtime*

Some houses are like hotels where the people who live there hardly know one another and hardly ever meet. Some children eat whenever they want and sleep whenever they want, which leads to them staying up late and wasting their time, or eating on a full stomach. This chaos leads to a weakening of family ties and a waste of time and energy, and exacerbates the lack of discipline among family members. 

You could excuse those who have legitimate reasons, because students, male and female, may have different times of leaving schools and universities, and those who are employed or who run stores do not have the same work schedules, but still there is nothing nicer than a family gathering together at the table and making the most of this opportunity to ask how everyone is and to discuss useful topics. 

The head of the household has to be strict in setting a time for everyone to be back home, and in insisting that everyone asks permission before going out, especially those who are young, whether in terms of chronological age or mental age, as it were, for whom one might have fears.

*1️⃣8️⃣ Spreading kindness in the home*

‘Aa’isha رضي الله عنه said: *“The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: _‘When Allaah ﷻ wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.’”_*

(Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/71; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 303)

According to another report, he ﷺ said: *_“When Allaah ﷻ loves the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.”_*

(Reported by Ibn Abu ad-Dunya and others; Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 1704)

In other words, they start to be kind to one another. This is one of the means of attaining happiness in the home, for kindness is very beneficial between the spouses, and with the children, and brings results that cannot be achieved through harshness, as the Prophet ﷺ said: *_“Allaah loves kindness and rewards it in such a way that He does not reward for harshness or for anything else.”_*

(Reported by Muslim, Kitaab al-Birr wa’l-Sillah wa’lAadaab, no. 2592)

*1️⃣9️⃣ Helping one’s wife with the housework*

Many men think that housework is beneath them, and some of them think that it will undermine their status and position if they help their wives with this work

‘Aa’isha رضي الله عنه was asked about what the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ used to do in his house; her response described what she herself had seen. According to another report, she said: *_“He was like any other human being: he would clean his clothes, milk his ewe and serve himself.”_*

(Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/256; as-Silsilah as-Saheehah, 671)

Somewhere else, she said: *_“He used to serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray.”_*

(Reported by Al-Bukhaari, al-Fat-h, 2/162)

If we were to do likewise nowadays, we would achieve three things: 

1. We would be following the example of the Prophet ﷺ

2. We would be helping our wives 

3. We would feel more humble, not arrogant. Some men demand food instantly from their wives, when the pot is on the stove and the baby is screaming to be fed; they do not pick up the child or wait a little while for the food. Let these narrations be a reminder and a lesson. 

_To be continued... إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللّٰهُ‎_

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