Tips to Help You Last Longer in Bed

 Tips to Help You Last Longer in Bed.

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Preamble:

◉﷽◉ Lots of men are suffering silently from early ejaculation, whether they talk about it or not, it remains one of the nightmares of men during intimacy. Early ejaculation is when a man cums earlier than expected or moments (mostly 2 minutes) after penetration begins. Some early ejaculations occur due to inexperience, lack of preparation, illness, or avoidable mistakes during intimacy. Regardless, it is a disaster for both men and women, as it leads to lack of satisfaction in both partners. And women tend to suffer the most in this situation, which is why it is important and necessary for men to overcome it. 

Our study shows that on average, the majority of women prefer their partners to last at least between 10 to 15 mins during penetration and in a total, 30 mins if we add both the penetration phase and the foreplay phase. While other women said they prefer their men to last at least between 20 to 40 mins. Do not be surprised, because some totally disagree, they prefer an hour or more. Nonetheless, not all women are the same, some have more sexual urges than others and some need it more than others. It takes 5 mins to satisfy one, and it takes an hour to satisfy another. The bottom line is that you need to study your partner as long as you want to maintain relevance and dominance in this game. It is important to note that, it is part of the Islamic etiquette of intimacy to satisfy your partner. [Ali bin Abi Talib]

After consultation and research, I was able to extract some tips to help you overcome this nightmare. Please consider the following suggestions:

Before Intimacy-:

◉ Invoke the name of Allah: The first thing you should do is to begin with the name of Allah. That is the minimum. If you are vast, you may recite the dua of intimacy ​​​​​​"Bismillah, Allahumma jannibnash-shaytan wa jannib-ash-shaytana ma razaqtana". The dua will drive away any part of Shaitan from your intimate moment. Some sex-related illnesses are often associated with the presence of shaitan and jinns.

◉ The first rule of thumb: Before you avail yourself before your partner, it is highly recommended that you ease yourself, meaning, you pass urine. When your bladder is full, it forces you to ejaculate before you are ready.

◉ Cleanness: Private area is not always tidy, hence clean it with water or take a full shower before availing yourself before your partner. This will create a calm, healthy and pure atmosphere for you two.

◉ Masturbate earlier: Some experts believe that one of the remedies for early ejaculation is to masturbate prior to having intimacy. This can fall under the foreplay session when both partners are into each other. Before the penetration, your partner can give you a handjob to help you pass the long awaiting semen. In that, your next ejaculation will take a longer time to reproduce. 

◉ Drink Herbs periodically: In my Hausa culture we have an illness known as "Sanyi" meaning cold. I don't know what it is called medically. Though it is an illness that affects both men and women by reducing their performance, libido, and sometimes even causes dryness of the vagina or erectile dysfunction. Thus, there are herbs that are popularly known for curing such illnesses. Whether you are ill or not, endeavor to drink these herbs periodically. 

During Intimacy-:

◉ Take it slow at first - Immediately after penetration, take it slow, go slow at first, do not rush, do not release all your energy. Going faster makes your penis muscles to contract, therefore, blood flow increases, and soon, signals will be sent to the brain to process the release of semen and your dopamine will not hesitate to act. 

◉ Maintain a pace - if you are the type that easily cum, maintaining a good pace will help you control the cum, for example, you know yourself better, you know how fast or how slow make you cum, so maintain that pace accordingly. 

◉ Breathing control - Your breathing also determines how soon you ejaculate. Don't be hard on yourself, breath gently and slowly. Sometimes breathing uncontrollably can deceive you into cumming early. 

◉ Relax - when you relax, your muscles relax as well, and so also your brain. Relax and pretend you are doing some form of a task. In that, the blood flow is maintained and controlled. False messages won't be sent to the brain for the release of dopamine. 

◉ Take Intervals - As soon as you start to feel the need to ejaculate, stop and take a break. Don't just sit, sitting could affect your erection. So preferably, engage in other activities such as fingering, smooching, foreplay, kissing, caressing, and so on. After 2 to 4 minutes you return and continue. 

◉ Switch Positions - No doubt, some positions are better than others when it comes to enjoying intimacy. Those positions that give you joy the most, must be avoided in the beginning. At times, there is no problem to start with those, however, as soon as you feel overwhelmed by a particular position, quickly switch to a less enjoyable one. 

◉ The Mind Game - Psychologists believe that sexual intimacy is not always about the sex organs. The main processing of pleasure comes from the brain. During intercourse, partners get carried away by the act, therefore it gets to them. When you take your mind away from it, you completely run away from the mind trap. As it goes on, think about things, like work, business, movie, or something that terrifies you; something that could drive you away from the act. In that, you prolong your desire to release semen. 

◉ Thick Condom technique - Thick condoms help a lot in constraining the penis muscles, therefore denying blood flow that sends messages to the brain. In that, you get prolonged. 

◉ Squeeze the Head - whenever you feel like it is near, withdraw your penis and squeeze the bottom of the head. In other words, squeeze below the head of the penis for 10 seconds. This technique prevents semen from being released. 

◉ Fantasizing your partner - it is typical for partners to fantasize about each other during intercourse. Especially when the female is very attractive. Fantasizing her body, beauty and organs tend to influence your performance. Thus, if you are the type that easily gets manipulated by an attractive body, then you should restrain yourself from having such thoughts. Note that spanking the butts may motivate your dopamine to release gases that eventually make you release early. 

◉ Influence of female groans and breathing - some couples can't just keep quiet, they groan, shout, cry and make a lot of noise. If you are easily aroused by such, try to stop your partner from making such gestures. Having thought of it alone could make you cum sometimes. So avoid it unless it is necessary. 

After Intimacy-:

◉ Cardio (exercise) - the greatest remedy for erectile dysfunction and early ejaculation is exercise. Men who are fit and muscular last longer in bed than other types of men. Exercise helps you burn sugar and fat that settle in the bladder and make you want to release quickly. 

◉ Wash off after - each time you intimate your partner and finish, always clean up and perform ablution before going for the second or third round. It is part of the sunnah of our beloved Prophet. Having intercourse again and again without cleaning causes erectile dysfunction. 

◉ Use Lubricants - Lubs are good for creating a gliding effect during intimacy. At the same time, they prevent early ejaculation as most of them have numbing substances that prevent you from feeling extreme sexual sensations. Hence, their effects slow the release of semen and eventually make you last longer. I find Durex Classic more suitable, bcos it has no spermicides and contraceptive gels. It is completely safe.

◉ Drink water more - Water serves as a detoxifier. When you drink adequate liters of water a day, it flushes out all the unwanted toxins in your blood, therefore boosting your energy. 

◉ Know your food - Some types of foods and drinks that we eat are bad for our sex life. For example sugar, carbonated drinks, junk food, fast food, and so on. They kill libido and cause erectile disorientation. 

◉ Frequency (Be Regular) - One of the causes of early ejaculation is when you take a long interval without intercourse. Having intercourse regularly helps you build more muscles and equip you with endurance. By regular I mean 5 to 7 times a week. Notwithstanding, Ali bin Abi Talib says having too much intimacy kills a man and makes him older. 

Facts about Women during Intimacy

◉ How long do they want you to last? To answer this question, the average number of women prefer moderate sex time, i.e. 10 to 15 mins. Some prefer it even more. So, learn your partner the way you learn your work skills. 

◉ How long does it take them to reach orgasm? There is no definite answer to this question. It varies from woman to woman. However, your technique in foreplay can determine how quickly they reach orgasm. Some women reach orgasm more than once in one go, while some never reach orgasm due to poor performance from their partner. 

◉ Intimacy is a psychological game for women - a woman cannot enjoy intimacy if she is sad or unhappy. She can lay down and let you have her as much as you want, but she has no atom of feeling or enjoyment for it. This is why it is good to keep them happy always and help them in reducing stress. Stress makes them lose appetite for sex and at times affects their performance or responses. If she loves you, she enjoys you, if she doesn't, she only suffer in pain and displeasure. 

◉ Do women cum? Yes some women cum just like men, it all depends on what you arouse them quickly and make them reach their climax. If you are good and you know what to do to make her enjoy, she will definitely cum. A study shows that some women if served properly by their partner could cum multiple times in one go. 

◉ What triggers women sexually? This question is the same as the earlier one, there is no correct answer. Women are different, and different women have different pleasure spots. To mention a few:

• Nipples 

• hair

• cleavage 

• navel 

• butts

• ears

• armpit 

• vulva 

• clitoris

• the hair in their private part 

• the G-spot. For the G-spot, every woman responds to touch from that area. It is considered the highest organ of pleasure and the most important place. If you like to know more about it and how to find it, Google how to find the G spot and you shall learn. 

©ASML