OF WIVES WHO ARE SEX STARVED BUT CANNOT TALK

 OF WIVES WHO ARE SEX STARVED BUT CANNOT TALK

We spend the whole of adolescence and early adulthood being extra conscious of sex, only to go into marriage and stop being interested in sex with our partners.

Fortunately for men, our society leaves the door wide open and addresses this issue, we have a way out.

For, wives, it is different.

If you are sex starved, you are on your own as every door is shut.

Now, here's the thing, you cannot have another partner, you cannot masturbate, you cannot play with sex toys, you cannot watch porn, yet, you cannot get what you want from your assigned partner. Worse, you dare not speak about it.

Welcome to marriage as we currently run it.

The saddest part is that many of those who have summoned the courage to speak up have been accused of  doing what they tried to avoid doing by speaking up. 

"If you are not getting enough, it is your fault, it is probably because you have done so much before marriage or you are currently doing so much."

Close your eyes for a second and hear your partner accuse you of that, for asking that you want more or you want better. Now tell me how to react rationally to that.

Picture a married woman using a vibrator, what comes to your mind, good wife or bad wife?

Picture a married woman touching herself, what comes to mind, good or bad wife?

You see how we have been conditioned to see it, right? Yet, we want to hold this in our minds without putting in place, mindsets that make it compulsory to satisfy, sexually, the wives at home.

No, this is not about the money you make or give her. It is not about the amount of time you spend working to provide for her. This is not about the wife of whom she is and it is no respecter of your status. Governor, president, counselor, banker, cleric, motivational speaker, it doesn't matter. It can happen to anybody. 

Women will tell you how they are strong and can go on for months and years without it, and while this is true in many cases, you have got to ask yourself if that is the sort of union you want to have. Beyond that, you need to realise, that even the strong women are ticking time bombs. It is only a matter of time before the timer runs down and the sexual pressure built, finds its way out, ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

Why this happens in the first place? that's another topic entirely, one we also need to discuss.