THE MUSLIM HOME EPISODE 1️⃣3️⃣- Forming the Household 1️⃣1️⃣

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*THE MUSLIM HOME*

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*EPISODE 1️⃣3️⃣- Forming the Household 1️⃣1️⃣*

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*1️⃣1️⃣ Inviting good and righteous people and seekers of knowledge to visit the home*

Allaah ‎(ﷻ) Says:

*“My Lord! Forgive me, and my parents, and him who enters my home as a believer, and all the believing men and women . . .”*

[Qur'aan 71:28]

If people of faith enter your home, it will increase in light (Noor), and will bring many benefits because of your conversations and discussion with them. The bearer of musk will either give you some, or you will buy from him, or you will find that he has a pleasant scent. When children, brothers and parents sit with such visitors, and women listen from behind a curtain or screen to what is said: this offers an educational experience to all. If you bring good people into your home, by doing so you keep bad people from coming in a wreaking havoc.

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*1️⃣2️⃣ Creating opportunities for meetings to discuss family matters*

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Allaah ‎(ﷻ) says: 

*“. . . And who [conduct] their affairs by mutual consultation . . .”*

[Qur'aan 42:38]

This is a time when the family members can sit together in a suitable place to talk about issues within and outside the family that affect them. This is a sign of strong ties, interaction and cooperation within the family. No doubt the man is the one whom Allaah has appointed to be in charge of his “flock’s” affairs and he is primarily responsible and is the decision maker, but giving a room to others to contribute – especially when the children get older – is good training for them to learn to bear responsibility, as well as giving everyone the confidence of knowing that his or her opinion is valued when they are asked to express their points of view. 

Examples of this are discussions concerning going for Hajj or for ‘Umrah during Ramadaan, and other trips, travelling to visit relatives and uphold family ties, or for vacations; organizing wedding parties and ‘Aqeeqahs for newborns; moving from one home to another; and charitable projects such as finding out about the poor people in one's neighborhood so the family can offer help or send food to them. Families can also discuss problems faced by themselves or by relatives, and talk about how to solve them, and so on.

It is worth pointing out here that there is another important kind of family meeting, which is holding frank discussions between parents and children. Some of the problems of adolescence can only by solved by one-on-one conversations between parents and children, where a father talks, calmly and quietly, with his son about matters that have to do with the problems of youth and the Islaamic rulings pertaining to adolescence, and a mother talks to her daughter and tells her what she needs to know about Islaamic rulings and helps her to solve the problems that she may face at this age.

The father or mother may open the discussion with words such as _“When I was your age…”_, This will have a great effect in making what they say acceptable to the youngster. Lack of such frank discussions will force the children to talk to bad companions, which leads to so many other evils.

_To be continued... إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللّٰهُ‎_

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