THE MUSLIM HOME. EPISODE 2️⃣2️⃣ - Good Manners at Home

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*THE MUSLIM HOME*

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*EPISODE 2️⃣2️⃣ - Good Manners at Home*

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*2️⃣5️⃣ *_“Hang up the whip where the members of the household can see it.”_*

(This is an authentic narration reported by Abu Nu’aym in his book al-Hilyah, 7/332; as-Silsilah as-Saheehah, no. 1446)

Hinting at punishment is an effective means of discipline, so the reason for hanging up a whip or stick in the house was explained in another report, where the Prophet ﷺ said: *_“Hang up the whip where the members of the household can see it, for this is more effective in disciplining them.”_*

(Reported by At-Tabaraani, 10/344-345; as-Silsilah as-Saheehah, no. 1447)

Seeing the means of punishment hanging up will make those who have bad intentions refrain from indulging in bad behavior, lest they get a taste of the punishment. It will motivate them to behave themselves and be good-mannered. Ibn al-Anbaari رحمه الله, said: 

_“There is nothing to suggest that it should be used for hitting, because [the Prophet ﷺ, did not command anyone to do that. What he meant was: keep on disciplining them.”_

(See Faydh al-Qadeer by al-Mannaawi, 4/325)

Hitting is not the way to discipline; it is not to be resorted to, except when all other means are exhausted, or when it is needed to force someone to do obligatory acts of obedience, as Allaah says: 

*“. . . As to those women on whose part you fear ill-conduct, admonish them [first], [next], refuse to share their beds, [and last] beat them [lightly, if it is useful] . . .”*

[Qur'aan 4:34] 

There is also the Hadeeth in which the Prophet of Allaah ﷺ said: 

*_“Order your children to pray when they are seven years old, and hit them if they do not do so when they are ten.”_*

(Reported by Abu Daawood, 1/334; see also Irwaa’ al-Ghaleel, 1/266)

As for hitting unnecessarily, this is aggression. The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ advised a woman not to marry a man because he always had his stick on his shoulder, i.e., he used to beat his wives. On the other hand, there are those who think that they should never use this method of discipline at all, following some educational theories of the non-believers; this is also a mistaken opinion that goes against the Sharee’ah.

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*Evils in the Home*

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*2️⃣6️⃣ Beware of non-Mahram relatives entering upon women when their husbands are absent.*

*2️⃣7️⃣ Men and women should sit separately during family visits.*

*2️⃣8️⃣ Be aware of the dangers of having male drivers and female servants in the house.*

*2️⃣9️⃣ Forbid the house to immoral people.*

*3️⃣0️⃣ Beware of the dangers of TV.*

*3️⃣1️⃣ Beware of the evils of the telephone.*

*3️⃣2️⃣ You have to remove everything that contains symbols of the false religions of the non-believers or their gods and objects of worship.*

*3️⃣3️⃣ Removing pictures of animate beings.*

*3️⃣4️⃣ Do not allow smoking in your homes.*

*3️⃣5️⃣ Do not keep dogs in your homes.*

*3️⃣6️⃣ Avoid too much decoration in your homes (keep it simple).*

_To be continued... إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللّٰهُ‎_

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