Discussing Sawdah* [[----- Part 3-of-8 -----]]

 *Discussing Sawdah*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Relationship with wives of the Holy Prophet - Due to Saudah's humble nature and spirited disposition, she soon developed a strong bond with the daughters and wives of the Holy Prophet (PBUH). She was very close to Aisha, Hafsah and Safiyah. The Holy Prophet cherished her buoyant nature and was often amused by her anecdotes.

*Lessons:*

Treating every member of the family nicely & causing NO HARM to your co-wife or stepchildren

Now,

If Nana Aisha (r.a.) will say about Saudah - *“I have never wished that I was like any other woman except for Saudah. I would like to have her simple and unpretentious ways and I wish I could be like her and that I could have a heart as pure and clean as hers and her simple ways.”* 📚(Nana Aisha)

Then,

Women who maltreat their stepchildren or co-wife with ill behavior and those women who go as far as using diabolical means to cause ANY SORT of harm to their co-wife or stepchildren are undoubtedly a Satanic agent.

My People!

If one of the wives, whether it is the first wife or otherwise, strives to bring about any sort of harm or divorce of the other wife (as we see in some places), that is haraam and is striving for the sake of falsehood, and for that which angers the Most Merciful (Allah) and this act pleases the Shaytaan😳. Yes. This comes under the heading of covetousness and selfishness.

Evidence:

*“And whosoever is saved from his own covetousness, such are they who will be the successful”* 📚[al-Hashr 59:9].

This indicates that the one who is motivated by covetousness or selfishness and pursues his or her whims and desires is a loser this 🌎 and the next world.

We must remember that,

The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: *“Whoever harms others, Allah will harm him, and whoever causes hardship to others Allah will cause hardship to him.”* 📚Narrated by Imam Ahmad (15755), Abu Dawood (3635), at-Tirmidhi (1940) and Ibn Maajah (2342); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani.

Now,

From the reports above, we understand that it is not appropriate for a woman to conner her husband IN ANY WAY to HARM her stepchildren or for the husband to divorce her co-wife so that she can have him to herself; rather she will have what has already been decreed for her, and the divorce of her co-wife will not detract anything from that which has been decreed for her, or add to it.

My People!

How many days are we going to live on this earth? Highest 100years, and die and reap what we sow right from our grave😳. Yes. Our deeds (good or bad) will appear in form handsome creature (for good deeds) or ugly frightening creatures (for bad deeds) in our graves till the day of judgement.

After all,

Any woman who is patience in putting up with her husband’s children or her husband marrying a second wife will bring a special reward over and above that, for the following reasons:

1 – Her husband’s marrying another wife is regarded as a test and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the reward for being patient in the face of a trial.

Evidence:

*“Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning”*
📚[al-Zumar 39:10]

2 - Women should follow the good example of the wives of the Prophet (PBUH) and his companions, who were patient and sought reward even though many of them felt jealous. Yes. If your husband goes ahead and takes a second wife then you have to be patient and content and treat him & the new wife well so that you can attain the reward of the patient and the doers of good.

Note that,

This life is the life of trials and tests, and how quickly it ends... So congratulations to the one who is patient in obeying Allah in this life until he attains eternal delight in the gardens of Paradise.

TO BE CONTINUED