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 *Realities in Homes*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Even if you separate with your wife or husband because he or she is having so so and so undesirable behaviors, definitely, the next person you will marry may have MORE undesirable behaviors (which maybe different from the one's of your ex) since you can't know everything about a man or woman before marriage.

Sure!!!

Your spouse will change all his or her undesirable behaviors, but you need to give it time. Yes. You need efforts (good communication, Du'a making and patient) to succeed in achieving this.

My People!

Sometimes, one single formula can not change your spouse's undesirable behaviors. It all depends on you, your situations and your type of man or woman.

Now,

*How To Handle A Difficult Husband Or Wife When it Comes to Change:*

Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised.

*Tip No 6:* Be mindful of the pace and amount of change you ask for

Change is difficult because it demands effort and energy. Most importantly, change needs to be gradual if it is to be stable and lasting.

Otherwise, too much in a short amount of time can induce resistance😃. Yes. Be mindful of how much you ask them to change and with what deadline😃.

We must remember that,

Even the laws in Islam came to us bit-by-bit. For instance, during jahileeyyah (before the prophethood of Muhammad - pbuh), People were drinking alcohol. So, if the prohibition came that people should stop drinking alcohol COMPLETELY, it will be difficult for them to practice Islam. So, the first prohibition for alcohol drinking was - *"Don't drink while you want to pray"* - and jahileeyyah people at that time used to drink few hours before swalah time.. Then, Allah (swt) revealed the final laws for prohibition of alcohol drinking, which is - *"Don't drink alcohol at all, for any reason"* - A verse in Surarul Baqarah and Suratul Maidah is prove for these... Allahu Akbar!

This is telling us that, it's not easy to change someone's behaviors within a tinkle of an eye. Yes. Some of your spouse's undesirable behaviors will go off completely, but it will take little time. So, don't worry. Just be patient.

If the demands are too high compared to their capacities of a partner refusing to change, they are going to fall short of it. That feeling of failure is going to reduce their motivation for future growth.

Respected Couples!

Do not feel disappointed in your marriage. After all, every couple have their own unique marital problems. And Allah (swt) did not make any mistake joining the two of you. Yes. He (Allah) wanted you to earn rewards by changing your spouse's undesirable behaviors to a desirable one. And you can never grab the UNCOUNTABLE rewards of changing your spouse for good if you are not patient. Uncountable rewards😳? Yes. Allah (swt) say

“Only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without Hisab (without limit, calculation, and estimation).” 📚[Qur’an, 39:10]

TO BE CONTINUED


سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك