Realities in Homes* [[------15th Show -----]]

 *Realities in Homes*

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*Message to Wicked Husbands:*

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

There is no doubt that just as the husband leads his wife to Paradise or to Hellfire, the wife may also lead him to Paradise or to Hellfire. This is because she has rights upon him in the same manner that he has rights upon her.

Servants of Allah!

It's not strange that large percentage of the married women are unbearably suffering in the hands of their husband.

It's good to remember that, Allah commanded us to treat the wives in a kind manner. Few out of the hundreds of evidences include:

*Evidence No 1:*

"{And live with them in kindness.} 📚[Quran 4:19]

As-Sa’di said about the interpretation of the above verse:

“The husband must be kind to his wife; he must keep good company with her, avoid harming her, be generous to her, and treat her well.” 📚[End of quote]

*Evidence No 2:*

"{And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable..} 📚[Quran 2:228]

Ibn Katheer, may Allaah have upon him, said in his Tafseer commenting on this verse:

"Wives have rights over their husbands (as regards living expenses, continuous love and kind treatment) similar to those rights of their husbands over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable). Each of them is obliged to give the other spouse their due rights." 📚[End of quote]

Of course,

If she deserves blame and or punishment because of neglecting her husband's right, then it's permissible to take measures to correcting her unpleasant behaviors (beginning with advice, preaching, ignoring her on bed, getting the attention of someone who she respected and fear to intervene). But deploying a selfish means to dealing with your wife is completely unacceptable in Islam, because, there is no doubt that just as the husband leads his wife to Paradise or to Hellfire, the wife may also leade a wicked husband to Hellfire.

Al-Qurtubi said:

*“If you have power over them, then remember the Might of Allah; Allah’s Might is over every might, so no one should transgress his wife, as Allah Almighty, is indeed in observation and watching.*” 📚[End of quote]

Abu Hurayrah narrated:

*That the Prophet (PBUH) said: “O Allah, bear witness that I have declared a warning concerning (failure to fulfill) the rights of the two weak ones: 'Orphans and women.'"* 📚[Ahmad and Ibn Maajah]

An-Nawawi said in Riyadh As-Saaliheen:

*"Meaning: I make the one who does not fulfill their rights sinful, and I severely warn against this and sternly repel against it.”* 📚[End of quote]

Al-Munaawi (a Shaafi’i scholar) said in his book Faydh Al-Qadeer:

*"It means that they (women and orphans) should be treated with kindness and compassion, and not overburden them with wickedness or what they cannot do, and that one should not be neglectful about their obligatory and desirable rights. The Prophet described them as weak to move people’s compassion towards them and as an additional warning (against neglecting their rights) and deterring people (from wronging them). This is because the weaker a person is, the more perfect the protection of Allah to them is, and the more severe Allah takes revenge against the person who oppressed him.” 📚[End of quote]

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك