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RULINGS ON CLOSE FRIENDSHIP WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER

 DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDFRIENDSHIul Jumuat  12th day of Swafar, 1446AH (Friday, 16th August 2024).

*_RULINGS ON CLOSE FRIENDSHIP WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER_*. Bismillah.


AlhamdulilLah, for granting us the opportunity to be part of this blessed day of the week. Today's khutbah is very important to us as Muslims. 

The laws of Islam are from ALLAH, our CREATOR, who knows our weaknesses as well as our strengths better than we can ever do. Women, by nature, desire to be looked at, adored, and cherished, while man is inclined to look at women. ALLAH, the Almighty, therefore, warns us against our own natures, which may lead us astray if we do not exercise caution and take the necessary safeguards. Thus, ALLAH, the Almighty says, (Say to the believing men to lower their gazes and guard their chastity… And say to the believing women to lower their gazes and guard their chastity and not to display their charms in public.) (Quran 24: 30-31).


Having friendship with members of the opposite gender may lead to staring, lustful thoughts, flirtatious behaviour, and seduction. Although it may not always be the case, there is no way to tell when it could happen and when it would not happen. That is why it is forbidden to mingle and mix freely with members of the opposite sex and to develop friendships with them. It is all part of zina (fornication), which ALLAH and HIS Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) strongly ordered us to abstain from. 

ALLAH, the Almighty has given us laws in order to guard us against the evils that are inherent in our own souls. 


We should, therefore, avoid unnecessary chatting with the opposite gender on Facebook, WhatsApp,  etc, for ALLAH sake. Our sisters in particular should avoid displaying their photos on these social networks bcs if you disobey ALLAH to please any man or woman, you are only wasting your time bcs it will not work in your favour as you wish. Let's be online only to learn our deen and remind each other about our responsibilities as Muslims as reminders only help believers says ALLAH. Your boss or work colleague is not your relative to mingle with. Let's fear ALLAH in all we do and HE is the only source of our sustenance. Trying to please your boss which involves any form of disobedience is a disaster. *_May ALLAH keep guiding us all and protect us from any satanic influences_*. Aameen.

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