Buy Enough Time* [[--11th Show--]]

 *Buy Enough Time*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Do you have a spouse or partner who refuses to change, won’t listen to your advice, or continues to make poor decisions? As you know, it can be an incredibly frustrating – and sometimes worrisome – experience.

But,

All relationships have their fair share of ups and downs, and you need to work hand in hand with your partner to overcome adverse situations.

If we bargain for or insist on "immediate" changing our spouse's uncomfortable behaviors, then, such expectations can never be realizable because their behavior probably won't be changing significantly anytime soon. Yes. I have seen some couples who after fighting and quarrelling to change their spouse's bad behaviors and failed, resorted to adapting better workable means of achieving that, and after sometimes, their bad behaviors were replaced with the good ones. Change, although is an inevitable component of life, but is never easy.

Now,

*How To Handle A Difficult Husband Or Wife When it Comes to Change:*

Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised.

*Tip No 7:* Always Treat Your Spouse the Way You Would Like to be Treated

Some husbands and wives, without making use of varieties of strategies and methods to changing their spouse's undesirable behaviors, complain to outsiders about their mate's undesirable behaviors. This is a recipe for disaster of husband wife relationship. Yes. Because not everybody will be comfortable with broadcasting their marital secret in the name of wanting them to change. 

Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.

Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. Yes. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies😃.

👉🏼 Yazid ibn Asad reported: The Prophet (pbuh) said to me, “Do not treat people but in the way you would love to be treated by them.” 📚Source: Musnad Ah‌mad 16220

Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times --- when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. In order to get it right, wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.

Meaning,

You can not achieve any positive result if you want to change a partner who is not on the good mood.

Sure!!!

Your spouse will change all his or her undesirable behaviors, but you need to give it time. Yes. You need efforts (good communication, Du'a making and patient) to succeed in achieving this.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: *"Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated"*. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success.

To be continued