*Buy Enough Time*
[[--12th Show--]]
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
The devil you know is better than the angel you don't kown. Yes. In most cases, it is wiser to deal with someone or something familiar, although you do not like him, her, or it, than to deal with someone or something you do not know that might be worse.
And,
Even if you separate with your wife or husband because he or she is having so so and so undesirable behaviors, definitely, the next person you will marry may have MORE undesirable behaviors (which maybe different from the one's of your ex) since you can't know everything about a man or woman before marriage.
It's good to know that,
If your spouse is having 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 undesirable behaviors and you insist that those undesirable behaviors should ALL vanish before you open eyes and close it, then, you will be a dreamer. Yes. It will be very difficult to achieve that.
Sometimes, one single formula can not change your spouse's undesirable behaviors. It all depends on you, your situations and your type of man or woman. But sure! Your partner will change if you did not get fed up in trying.
Now,
Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised:
If you have exhausted all the workable methods and yet, nothing is working between the two of you regarding "effective communication", then, there might be good reasons.
*Why Your Spouse Doesn't Listen:*
A listening problem in a relationship could be related to many different issues. Common contributing factors include you or your partner's method of delivery.
Now,
Here are 10 problems with your communication delivery that could be causing your spouse to tune you out—as well as suggestions for how to fix the problem so that you both feel respected and heard.
*Problem No 1:* Too Many Words
You may be taking too long to say what you want to say. Sometimes, when we're nervous, we may become more long-winded than necessary. This can be frustrating or boring for your conversation partner—and your meaning can get lost in all those words. Aim to get to the point using logic and wisdom. We must remember that every teacher knows what he or she wants to teach, but the greatest challenge before every teacher is - *"how to pass the knowledge"* - this is the same in every situation. Yes. Go straight to the point in a calm manner.. This is why Allah (swt) say:
"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best..." 📚An-Nahl 16:125
*Problem No 2:* Monopolizing
Your spouse will probably zone out if they are rarely getting a chance to talk. Yes. Good conversations allow both people to contribute. And if this point is not important, Qur'an will not have mentioned that we should always investigate issues before judgement. And nobody will succeed as an investigator without listening to people's view.
Evidence:
"O you who have believed, if there comes to you a disobedient one with information, investigate, lest you harm a people out of ignorance and become, over what you have done, regretful". 📚Al-Hujurat 49:6
To be continued
[[--12th Show--]]
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
The devil you know is better than the angel you don't kown. Yes. In most cases, it is wiser to deal with someone or something familiar, although you do not like him, her, or it, than to deal with someone or something you do not know that might be worse.
And,
Even if you separate with your wife or husband because he or she is having so so and so undesirable behaviors, definitely, the next person you will marry may have MORE undesirable behaviors (which maybe different from the one's of your ex) since you can't know everything about a man or woman before marriage.
It's good to know that,
If your spouse is having 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 undesirable behaviors and you insist that those undesirable behaviors should ALL vanish before you open eyes and close it, then, you will be a dreamer. Yes. It will be very difficult to achieve that.
Sometimes, one single formula can not change your spouse's undesirable behaviors. It all depends on you, your situations and your type of man or woman. But sure! Your partner will change if you did not get fed up in trying.
Now,
Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised:
If you have exhausted all the workable methods and yet, nothing is working between the two of you regarding "effective communication", then, there might be good reasons.
*Why Your Spouse Doesn't Listen:*
A listening problem in a relationship could be related to many different issues. Common contributing factors include you or your partner's method of delivery.
Now,
Here are 10 problems with your communication delivery that could be causing your spouse to tune you out—as well as suggestions for how to fix the problem so that you both feel respected and heard.
*Problem No 1:* Too Many Words
You may be taking too long to say what you want to say. Sometimes, when we're nervous, we may become more long-winded than necessary. This can be frustrating or boring for your conversation partner—and your meaning can get lost in all those words. Aim to get to the point using logic and wisdom. We must remember that every teacher knows what he or she wants to teach, but the greatest challenge before every teacher is - *"how to pass the knowledge"* - this is the same in every situation. Yes. Go straight to the point in a calm manner.. This is why Allah (swt) say:
"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best..." 📚An-Nahl 16:125
*Problem No 2:* Monopolizing
Your spouse will probably zone out if they are rarely getting a chance to talk. Yes. Good conversations allow both people to contribute. And if this point is not important, Qur'an will not have mentioned that we should always investigate issues before judgement. And nobody will succeed as an investigator without listening to people's view.
Evidence:
"O you who have believed, if there comes to you a disobedient one with information, investigate, lest you harm a people out of ignorance and become, over what you have done, regretful". 📚Al-Hujurat 49:6
To be continued
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