Suffering in Silence* [[---- Episode 5 ----]]

 *Suffering in Silence*

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*Stern Warning to Husbands Who Use Money to Punish their Wives*

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

The husband is obliged to spend on his wife’s maintenance, on a reasonable basis. This is why Allah (swt) say in Surah At-Talaq 65:7

لِيُنفِقۡ ذُو سَعَةࣲ مِّن سَعَتِهِۦۖ وَمَن قُدِرَ عَلَيۡهِ رِزۡقُهُۥ فَلۡيُنفِقۡ مِمَّآ ءَاتَىٰهُ ٱللَّهُۚ لَا يُكَلِّفُ ٱللَّهُ نَفۡسًا إِلَّا مَآ ءَاتَىٰهَاۚ

“Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him” 📚[at-Talaq 65:7].

And,

It was narrated that Mu‘awiyah al-Qushayri (r.a.) said: I said: O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of the wife of one of us over him? He said: “That you feed her as you feed yourself, clothe her as you clothe yourself, do not strike the face, do not disgrace her and if you want to shun her (by way of disciplining her) do not leave home.” 📚 Authentic

My brother,

If you are a husband who uses money to manipulate, dominate, or psychologically abuse your wife, listen carefully. Yes. What you are doing is not only culturally wrong but religiously sinful. And what I'm about telling you is the hard truth you need to hear: 

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You Are Destroying Trust, Not Building a Marriage because *"A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers, not two controllers."* And when you withhold money, monitor every penny, or force your wife to beg, you are not being a "provider"—you are being a jailer. 

A popular say goes - "A real man does not rule his home with an iron fist but with an open hand. And a closed hand gathers no love, only resentment."

So,

If you think financial control keeps her loyal, you are wrong, because "Fear keeps a woman in the house, but love keeps her in your heart."

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You Are Teaching Your Children the Wrong Lessons because Children learn more from what you are than what you teach.

Do you want your sons to grow up believing that love means control? 

Do you want your daughters to accept abuse as normal?

We should remember that "A tree is known by its fruit, and a man by his deeds." And what fruit will your legacy bear? 

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You Will Eventually Lose Everything because "You can chain a bird’s wings, but you cannot make it sing."

A wife who stays out of fear is not a wife—she is a prisoner. And prisoners always dream of escape😀. Yes. A house built on control will crumble under rebellion. Yes. One day, she may find her strength, her resources, or a way out—and you will be left with nothing but regret. 

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Real Men Empower, Not Enslave because the measure of a man is not in his wealth, but in his kindness. 

A true leader uplifts his wife, ensuring she has the means to grow, not trapping her in dependence. And "A candle loses nothing by lighting another.". Yes. If you help her flourish, your whole family thrives. 

*Final Warning: The Universe Has a Way of Balancing Scales*

- If you sow control, you will reap loneliness. 
- If you sow generosity, you will reap love. 

*Choose wisely Before the very thing you tried to control becomes the reason you lose everything.*

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