Suffering in Silence* [[---- Episode 9 ----]]

 *Suffering in Silence*

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بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

*"With great power comes great responsibility."* — A man who takes multiple wives holds the happiness of multiple lives in his hands.

Today,

The neglected wife swallows her pain, smiling in public while crying inside. She watches her co-wife’s children call their father *"Daddy"* with excitement while her own children hesitate, unsure if they are allowed the same warmth. 

Islamic teachings emphasize kindness and equity, yet some men twist polygyny into a system where one wife is queen and the other a mere servant. *"When one door closes, another opens,"* but for her, every door seems locked. She questions whether she was ever truly loved or just another checkbox on her husband’s list of accomplishments.

In many polygamous family today, *"The favored wife eats honey while the neglected one licks salt."* — In such households, one wife becomes the *"golden wife,"* showered with love, financial support, and attention, while the other is relegated to the shadows, left wondering if she is even part of the family. Her children grow up watching their half-siblings enjoy luxuries they can only dream of, whispering among themselves, *"Are we not also his children?"* 

When a father favors one set of children over another, he weakens the entire family structure. The neglected children grow up with a gnawing emptiness, questioning their worth. *"The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,"* but what if the tree itself refuses to nurture some of its apples? 

The Prophet (pbuh) said:

*“Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning (ie- Paralysed).”* 📚 al-Tirmidhi (1141)

Now,

*Fairness in spending as regards to Feeding & Clothing:*

Due to individual differences as a factor,, it is not a must to feed ur wives with the same food. Some prefer Indomie to Spaghetti. Yes. Some people don't eat meat BUT fish. etc etc.. So, there is NO SIN if u give any of ur wives what each and everyone of them prefer to eat (provided the cost of the foods given to one of the wives did not express injustice). For instance, giving one of the wives rice without meat or fish, and the other wife get rice with meat and or fish.. This is injustice.

Also,

Giving the first wife with 6 children one bag of rice and second wife with 2 children half bag of rice is not injustice.

Furthermore,

Any of ur wives can eat and drink anything they like at anytime provided the source is not from your pocket. Yes. This could be due to the fact that, they are working class or they have wealthy parents or relatives who give them gifts time-to-time.

*Clothing:*

Bcos you want to be just, your wives must not appear like school children when they dress😃. I mean ALL wives appearing in green color LES for instance. Yes. Try to understand or find out from them, the color each and every one of them like.. Some may prefer pink colour to red color materials. BUT the dresses must be of the same or almost the same quality or standard or price. And it is NOT injustice if you give to the 1st wife who is slim 4 yards of clothes and 2nd wife 6 yards because she is very fat.

But,

Where u buy N2,000 LES material for your 1st wife and N10,000 LES material for your 2nd wife, is a SIN and injustice. Also, no matter how expensive any dress may be, any of your wives can wear it, provided the source is not from you.

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