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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 17


*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 17*

*DISCOURSE ON EARLY MARRIAGE, WHY IT IS IMPORTANT, AND HEALTH-RELATED ISSUES*

Almighty Allāh (subhanahu wa taalah) the Creator and the Most High knows human beings more than they think they know themselves. At times humans try to question the law of nature not knowing the wisdom of Allah behind it. Early marriage is one of the concepts of islam that both Muslims and non-Muslims criticise. Some people believe early marriage is inappropriate bcos of many reasons . Even though it is being practiced and supported by law in western countries like America, Australia and few others. Don't be shocked, go and read more about that. Basically early marriage is criticised bcos young girls are exposed to hardships. But let us remember, it is not the aim of Allah to expose them, rather man is evil.

Why early marriage is important in today's world.

To address adultery related problems. - Young girls as early as 14 are being impregnated everywhere. The advocates for anti early marriage would say they should not be in Marriage, they should be allowed to enjoy their freedom. But should we allow them to be impregnated, no problem? If you walk through the nooks and crannies of my home town Kano, Nigeria at night, you would come across a lot of underage girls conversing with men enough to be their fathers. And no one seems to care. Hence you find hundreds of cases of young girls having done abortions. So this implies that a girl is free to have an affair as early as 14 but not allowed to join a matrimonial home. This is indeed ridiculous.

Aging is a crucial factor. - Women in their nature are prettier during their young age. And that is the time when they get suitors the most. Women in their nature have a stipulated time in which they must marry. If they delay it any further, every day passes, they age and their beauty deteriorates. When they become a bit older, men become disinterested in them, bcos young men prefer young girls (from 18 to 23), though it differs from person to person. And when she reaches her climax, she becomr bored at home, so she starts to flirt. Some are not patient, so they lose their virginity. Some become prostitutes.

Health issues - it is medically proven that women who delay marriage have higher chances of getting life threatening health issues including breast lumps, fibroid and  Overiancyst among others. Woman in her nature need man who would satisfy her sexual desires. Absence of this activity, makes the body vulnerable to the aforementioned diseases that can endangers the life. This is one of the logics of getting married early so as to avoid hormones that tend to react badly when the body does not get what it wants.

Infertility issues - women unlike men lose their chances to conceive and become pregnant when they get much older. When a woman gets married at age 30 to 35, you realise that she finds it difficult to conceive when compared with women of lesser age. There is a period called menopause which every woman has to pass through, in which she becomes automatically barren, she cannot have children naturally. Menopause comes at various ages, and it differs woman to woman. So you need to get married early.

Education, maturity, irresponsibility, are often blamed for the reason why some girls cannot marry early. None of these points is true. Bcos we saw thousands of young girls going to school and married at the same time. We saw many immatured girls became matured after marriage. Likewise we saw many irresponsible girls becoming much responsible after their marriage. Dear parents, you need to make a decision. You either allow your daughter to get married and avoid shame, or you let irresponsible men almost your age to spoil her. Remember, girls don't need to go out to be spoilt. With the advent of social media, they can do everything from their room. Likewise, those cousins and uncles and family friends also can spoil them in front of your eyes. So have trust in Allah, let her marry while she has the chance. Wallahi i personally received complaints of women whose parents refused to allow them to marry. They are desperate to touch a man, but they fear the consequences. Please, save your children from destruction.


*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*


*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)

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