MUSLIMS TILL DEATH

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Let's begin tonight's Islamic education.

OUR TOPIC:

THE MUSLIM HOME (EPISODE 7)

🗓️ Thursday, 29th October 2026
18th Jumaadal-Ulaa 1448 AH

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✍🏻 Not allowing into the home anyone whose commitment to Islaam is not pleasing to you.

The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said:

“The likeness of a bad companion is like the one who works the bellows. He will either burn your clothes, or you will smell a bad odour from him.”

(Reported by Al-Bukhaari, al-Fat-h, 4/323).

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How often has the entry of corrupt and suspicious people into a home been the cause of enmity and division among family members?

Allaah ﷻ curses the one who turns a wife against her husband, a husband against his wife, or causes enmity between a father and his children.

This is also one of the ways through which Sihr (magic or witchcraft) may be brought into people's homes.

We must not allow such people into our homes, even if they are neighbours, men or women, and even if they appear to be friendly.

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Some people remain silent out of embarrassment and allow such individuals into their homes, even though they know that these people are corrupt.

In this matter, women bear a great deal of responsibility.

The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said:

“Your rights over your women are that they should not allow anyone to sit on your beds whom you dislike, or allow anyone into your homes whom you dislike.”

(Reported by At-Tirmidhi, 1163, and others from 'Amr ibn al-Ahwas; Saheeh al-Jaami', 7880).

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✍🏻 Taking careful note of what family members are up to.

▪️ Who are your children's friends?

▪️ Have you met them before?

▪️ What do your children bring home from outside?

▪️ Where does your daughter go, and with whom?

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Some parents do not know that their children have bad pictures, pornographic movies, and even drugs in their possession.

Some parents are unaware that their daughter goes with the female servant to the market, then asks the servant to wait with the driver while she goes to meet someone for an appointment or "date" with one of the Shayaateen (devils), or to smoke and engage in inappropriate activities with her bad friends.

Those who neglect their children will not be spared on that terrible Day, nor will they be able to escape the horrors of the Day of Reckoning.

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The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Allaah will ask every shepherd [or responsible person] about his flock [those for whom he was responsible], whether he took care of it or neglected it, until He asks a man about his household.”

(Reported by An-Nasaa'i, 292, and Ibn Hibbaan from Anas; Saheeh al-Jaami', 1775; As-Silsilah As-Saheehah, 1636).

There are some important points to note here:

▪️ This supervision must be subtle.

▪️ The atmosphere should not be intimidating.

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▪️ The child must not be made to feel that he or she is not trusted.

▪️ Advice and/or punishment must be appropriate to the child's age, level of understanding, and the seriousness of the wrongdoing.

▪️ Beware of negative methods of checking on children and making them feel that their every move is being watched.

I have been told of a person who has a computer in which he records every mistake his children make in detail.

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If one of his children does something wrong, he sends the child a memo requesting his presence. He then opens the child's file on the computer and reminds him of all his previous mistakes, as well as the current misdemeanour.

Note: We are not talking about a company here. The father is not an angel whose job it is to record bad deeds.

This father needs to read more about the principles of Islaamic upbringing and education.

I also know of people at the other extreme who refuse to get involved in their children's affairs at all, claiming that a child will not be convinced that a mistake is a mistake or a sin is a sin unless he commits it and then discovers for himself that it is wrong.

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This deviant idea comes from being raised on ideas of Western philosophy and notions of absolute freedom.

Some parents give their children free rein because they fear that the children may begin to hate them, saying:

“I will earn his love whatever he does.”

Some give their children complete freedom as a reaction to their own overly strict upbringing, thinking that they must do the absolute opposite with their own children.

Others take this misguided attitude to extremes by saying:

“Let our sons and daughters enjoy their youth as they wish.”

Do these people not think that their children might pull at their clothes on the Day of Resurrection and say:

“O my father, why did you leave me in sin?”

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✍🏻 END OF TODAY'S EDUCATION.

Subhaanaka Allaahumma wa bihamdika, ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illaa Anta, astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.

A NOTE FROM THE ADMIN:

We have been experiencing some difficulties with our handset, which caused the interruption in our lessons. In shaa Allaah, the problem has almost been resolved, and we hope to continue our lessons regularly.

May HE strengthen us and make us steadfast in our faith.

May HE accept our 'Ibaadaat and grant us goodness in this world and the Hereafter.

May Allaah 'Azza wa Jalla forgive us and grant us Jannatul-Firdaws.

AAMEEN YA RABBAL-'AALAMEEN.