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DEALING WITH A DIFFICULT WIFE WHILE SEEKING THE PLEASURE OF ALLAH AZZAWAJAL

 *_DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDER_*

Yaum al-ithnayn | 14th day of Muharram, 1448 AH | Monday, 29th June, 2026. *_DEALING WITH A DIFFICULT WIFE WHILE SEEKING THE PLEASURE OF ALLAH AZZAWAJAL_*. BismilLah. 


Every marriage goes through periods of ease and difficulty. A husband may at times find his wife difficult due to disagreements, emotional challenges, misunderstandings, or differences in personality, financial issues etc. During such moments, the believer should remember that his true objective is not to "win" every argument, but to earn the pleasure of ALLAH Azzawajal.


A Muslim husband is a shepherd over his family and will be questioned by ALLAH Azzawajal regarding how he fulfilled that trust.


ALLAH Azzawajal says:

"Live with them in kindness. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike something while ALLAH has placed much good in it." Qur'an 4:19.

This noble verse reminds husbands that temporary frustration should never lead to injustice or oppression. What appears difficult today may become a source of tremendous reward and blessing through patience.


ALLAH Azzawajal also says:

"Indeed, ALLAH is with those who fear Him and those who are doers of good." Qur'an 16:128.


When a husband controls his anger and continues to act with justice and kindness for the sake of ALLAH Azzawajal, he earns the companionship and support of his LORD.


The Messenger of ALLAH ﷺ said:

"The best of you are those who are best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives."

(Jāmiʿ at-Tirmidhī – Ṣaḥīḥ).


If anyone had the greatest right to respond harshly, it would have been the Prophet ﷺ, yet he remained the finest example of mercy, patience, and gentleness within his home.


He ﷺ also said:

"A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he should be pleased with another."

(Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim). This teaches husbands to be balanced. No spouse is perfect, and focusing only on faults blinds us to the many blessings ALLAH Azzawajal has placed in our wives.


The Prophet ﷺ further said:

"The strong man is not the one who defeats others in wrestling, but the one who controls himself when angry." (Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī and Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim).

Strength is demonstrated by patience, self-control, and wise leadership, not by shouting, intimidation, insults, or violence.


*_May ALLAH Azzawajal make us among those who lead their families with mercy and justice, grant our sisters righteousness and tranquility, place love and mercy between every believing husband and wife, forgive our shortcomings, and gather us together in Jannatul-Firdaws_*. Aameen.

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